Research Shows Our Need for Acceptance

The Importance of Fathers.

Over forty years of research with thousands of people from cultures worldwide have revealed that the perceived acceptance or rejection of one’s parents, and in particular the father or male figure, has profound implications for a person’s future.  A child who perceives they are rejected by their parents, and especially their father, can have issues in adulthood with psychological adjustment, depression, anxiety, insecurity, behavioral problems and substance abuse.[1]

Furthermore, a person who experiences parental rejection in childhood is more likely to develop a worldview that deems God and the supernatural in a negative, judgmental, harsh and critical light. In fact, societies where children tend to be rejected culturally usually portray God and the supernatural as being malevolent, not benevolent.[2]

This news may not sound very uplifting, especially if you were raised in a hostile environment, or one in which your parents and particularly your father showed you rejection instead of unconditional love and acceptance. You may have been raised in an environment where there was not even a paternal figure present. Or you had a father figure, but always felt like his acceptance of you was based on what you did (performance), not who you were as a person (identity).  In any and all cases, there is hope.

Research has also shown that not all people who had a negatively perceived upbringing are necessarily subjected to the associated issues in adulthood.  The determining factor of whether a person can overcome is based on one’s belief they can “exert at least a modicum of control over what happens to them” and do not feel like helpless “pawns”.[3]

Therefore, how we respond to our childhood upbringing is vitally important. As children of a loving and good heavenly Father, we have the power and ability to overcome even the worst of childhood upbringings if we truly believe in the unconditional love and acceptance of God the Father.  We must each make the choice to not see ourselves as victims of the past, but instead as victorious through Jesus Christ our Lord.
In my new book, Our Good Father, I took the words of Jesus to give my readers a better understanding of the true nature of God. Jesus said that the only way to truly know the Father is through him. (Matthew 11:27) As I studied the words of Christ to figure out who God really is and who he is not, I came across one reoccurring theme. Jesus keeps trying to teach us that his Father is good.

The Father’s love is what every person in the world needs to overcome their past. Nothing heals as completely or holistically as the Father’s acceptance of us in Christ. Are you struggling with past rejection, Father issues or just a longing to be closer to God? Pre-order* a copy of my book, Our Good Father and find the healing needed for your soul.  

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(Excerpts of this article were taken from Our Good Father, Bridge Logos 2017)
[1] Journal of the Society for Psychological Anthropology, Parental Acceptance-Rejection: Theory, Methods, Cross-Cultural Evidence, and Implications, Volume 33, Issue 3, September 2005, Pages 299-334, Ronald P. Rohner, Abdul Khaleque, David E. Cournoyer
[2] Ibid., 318.
[3] Ibid., 315.